Bondage for Beginners
As the years go on, peoples attitudes to sex are changing. We are more open minded than we once were, and sexual practises such as domination, anal sex and swinging are becoming much less taboo and more widely practised.
It can be quite daunting to try something new in the bedroom, especially if you’re worried that your partner is more experienced than you or if you are lacking self confidence. But you don’t have to throw yourself in head first; just dip a toe in the water and see if you like it.
There are few things you can try gently at first, then turn the heat up if it’s something you enjoy. Bondage is not quite the same as BDSM (Bondage, Domination, Sadism & Masochism), and it can easily be introduced into your bedroom play to spice things up a bit.
<b>Blindfolds</b> Taking away one of your main senses makes all of the others more alert, so you’re more sensitive to touch, smell, sound and taste. You should only do this with someone who you trust completely, as you are surrendering yourself to them. Try taking it in turns to see whether you prefer to tease and tantalise your girlfriend while you watch her squirm, or whether you enjoy the suspense of not knowing what will happen next. If you are comfortable with this and want to turn things up a notch, try tying your partner’s wrists to the bedpost with silk scarves while they are blindfolded (with their consent). It will drive her wild not being able to touch you, and not knowing where you will touch her next!
<b>Roleplay</b> There’s a limit to how much dressing up you can do as a man, but women have a whole host of options to choose from. PVC and leather, studs, high heels and thigh boots, chains and zips. By taking it in turns, you will soon learn whether you prefer being dominant or submissive; make it interesting by playing the master while she is the obedient wench, or be her slave while she is your mistress. Try not to laugh if you’re new to this – it can be very sexy and make things more intense. If you have a particular fantasy, tell your partner about it and she may agree to act it out for you and dress the part. Many high street sex stores sell a variety of costumes; we know for a fact that our Escorts in outfits look hot!
<b>Spanking</b> Some people love the tingling feeling they get in their buttocks from a good spanking. The key thing here is to do it gently at first; agree to stop as soon as your partner asks you to, and massage lotion into her skin afterwards to sooth it better. Again, you may prefer to give or receive – there’s a real divide between what men enjoy (as there is with women). As you warm up to it, you can go a bit harder or use a prop such as a spanking paddle or a whip. It’s all in good fun!
