It can put a real strain on your relationship when your sex drive differs considerably from your partners. Perhaps you want it all the time and she’s rarely interested; this can leave you feeling rejected and insecure. Or maybe it’s the other way round – she’s constantly trying to jump you and you’re not in the mood. If this is the case, you’ll end up with a very sulky other half. There are a lot of factors that can affect your libido, so here are some things you can try to make things more harmonious in the bedroom.

If you’re the one with a higher libido, don’t put pressure on her or get in a mood when she says no – this will only antagonise her. Try to work out the reasons why she’s saying no; is she tired or stressed from work? If this is the case, pamper her by running a hot bath or giving her a massage. This will allow you to be intimate and may relax her enough to show her appreciation! If your sex life has become too monotonous, you need to spice things up a bit. Don’t always go for the same position at the same time on the same night of the week. Surprise her with some afternoon delight, or talk about her fantasies to see if there’s something new you can try. It’s also a good idea to remind her that you find her desirable; small gestures like a text message saying you’ve been thinking about her all day will make a difference. Buy her a token or gift so that she knows you love her, and remember to pay her compliments. Just because the honeymoon period is over, it doesn’t mean that the passion has to die!

If it’s you who isn’t in the mood, you need to work out the reason for it. Alcohol, drugs and a bad diet can lower your libido so try clean living to see if it makes an improvement; also a lack of sleep will leave you grouchy and definitely not feeling sexy. If you’re no longer attracted to your partner, it’s a more serious problem and means you need to have a talk about your relationship. Some men turn to London escorts for comfort when they no longer have a spark with their partner.

To pick things up, set some time aside just be with each other, perhaps two nights per week. Remember the romance from the beginning of your relationship, and reignite that spark that you once had!