Is It Time to Leave Her?

All relationships have their ups and downs. It’s natural for couples to bicker and argue on occasion, but when do you know that it’s not working any more? There are some who have so much passion in their relationship that they fight like a cat and dog, but also love each other desperately. Others never disagree, but don’t feel very strongly for each other. Only you can judge whether or not your relationship has run its course, so ask yourself these things before making the decision to end it.

Do the bad times outweigh the good? If you’ve realised that you only have fun with her once a week and you hate being around her the other 6 days, something has gone wrong. Your partner should be like your best friend, someone you’re happy to socialise with outside the bedroom. If you don’t even get on any more, it’s a sure sign that your relationship wasn’t built to last.

Are you always fantasising about other women? To an extent, this is normal. You can love your wife dearly, but still imagine what it would be like to go to bed with Megan Fox – that’s just part of being a man. But if you no longer find your other half sexually attractive and are constantly fantasising about other women, things aren’t right. If you get your kicks looking at photos of London escorts and watching girls in the street, perhaps you need to reassess your relationship.

Before you take any action, make sure that you’re doing the right thing. Don’t break up a long term relationship on the spur of the moment or during a heated argument; you need to think it through with a clear head and take your time coming to that decision. Imagine how you would feel seeing her out with another man – is that something you could handle? This could just be a rough patch that you can work on together. Sit down somewhere private with her and discuss the things that you’re unhappy, and find out if she feels the same way.

If you’ve made up your mind, you’ve been considering it for some time and want to leave her, be prepared for her reaction. It might come as a shock to her, so expect shouting, swearing and name calling; her feelings will be hurt, so you should take this on the chin and not retaliate. She might also cry and beg for you back, but you need to be firm here and stand your ground. Let her know that your decision is final and that there’s no going back (if you’re sure that’s what you want).