The Attribution Effect
We’ve spoken before about the importance of body language, especially when it comes to picking up women. But did you know that people can sum you up and make their judgements within seven seconds of meeting you? That doesn’t leave much wriggle room! Our cheap London escorts have no problems with body language when they’re meeting new people, but others may let nerves get the better of them.
Judi James is the author of a book called ‘The Body Language Bible’; she explains that ‘the attribution effect’ is what happens when we form first impressions of others within seconds of meeting them. It goes back to our primitive instincts, as “part of our survival response”. Firstly it’s to see if the other person is a threat, but then we do make assumptions about personality and attraction. It’s usually a subconscious thing, but we all do it!
If you want to make a good first impression, you need to be aware of how you come across to others. Many people are shy or awkward, then warm up as the night goes on, however this could be too late if someone has already made up their mind about you. Instead of spoiling your chances, follow our advice.
Before you introduce yourself to someone, stand up straight and take a deep breath. As you exhale, relax and let go of any tension or anxiety; if your muscles are stiff, you won’t look very friendly. As you approach, give them a warm, genuine smile, and you’ll usually find that this is reciprocated. Fake smiles are easy to recognise, so beware of dishing these out then dropping them instantly.
Remember to respect their personal space and stand about an arm’s length away, but keep your gestures open – for example, don’t cross your arms. Basic manners go a long way too; don’t yawn or check your mobile phone when you first meet someone. If you’re rude within the first few seconds, you won’t get another chance to impress them!
Show the person that you’re interested in them and listening to them; this can be done by nodding and keeping eye contact. Pay them the occasional compliment, but keep it light – this is another thing that shouldn’t be faked. Try not to look moody or anxious, otherwise people will assume that this is how you are all the time.
If you think that you need to brush up on your body language, spend some more time with our escort girls and follow their lead. You’ll be an expert in no time!