Turn Lust into Love

Have you ever had one of those dates where the spark between you is so intense that you can barely string a sentence together? The chemistry is intense and all you want to do is run home and rip each other’s clothes off. If you’re looking for a one night stand of a bed buddy, that’s fine. But if you like this girl so much that you want to turn it into something more, try to hold your horses and see if you can turn lust into love.

Don’t Dive Straight In Although it is tempting to jump straight into bed together, try to hold off. Lust is just hormones and does not require any work; love develops more slowly and it will take effort from both of you. It will be worth it in the end, making the act much more meaningful when you finally give in. If you are finding it difficult to resist, avoid late night meetings that could be fuelled by alcohol and end up back at your place. Get to know each other via phone and email to keep the physical attraction from interfering with your bonding, and meet for lunch dates where it is more difficult to succumb to your desires.

Or if it’s too late… Some of us simply don’t have that self restraint and can’t resist each other! If this is the case for you, don’t fret and enjoy it. Judge the situation for yourself; if you can sleep together without attaching too many feelings and just enjoy the sex, then go ahead! If you will be sitting by the phone waiting for them to call, it’s probably a good idea to wait to avoid getting hurt.

Make it Intimate Whether you fall into bed together sooner or later, you can can make the experience more intimate and romantic than just having a physical connection. A big step is to make eye contact during love making. Looking into your partners eyes is very intense and will deepen the connection between you. It can also make everything more tender by caressing each other’s face and hair. Compliment the way you fit together so well rather than generic compliments that could potentially fit to anybody.

Speak Your Mind Rather than playing games and keeping each other guessing, tell her how you feel. You don’t have to jump right in with those three little words or commit to anything permanent, but let her know that you feel strongly for her and that there might be something more there. From here you can build a relationship together. When the time comes that you want to say ‘I love you’, avoid doing it during or after sex. This can cloud your judgement, and will leave her wondering if you just love your amazing sex life. Instead, opt for a moment that is normal and everyday, rather than a passionate moment. Many a Moorgate escort has been wooed this way!