What Counts as Cheating?
Cheating on your partner can come in many different forms, and it’s not something that couples always see eye to eye on. For some, catching you flirting with a member of the opposite sex would leave them irate. For others, that means nothing and only sex would count as being unfaithful. It’s up to the two of you to decide where the line is, and then it’s your responsibility not to cross it! Here are a few grey areas that might cause arguments if they’re not cleared up with your other half.
Having female friends is not cheating. It’s healthy to socialise with the opposite sex, and your wife or girlfriend should not have to be present every time you speak to a woman. If she gets jealous over that, then she must either be very insecure or have trust issues from being hurt in the past. Be honest and open with her about the women in your life, and she’ll have less reason to be suspicious of you. However, if you’re meeting with female friends who you’re sexually attracted to and you’re deliberately hiding it from your Mrs, you’re on dangerous territory. She’d have the right to be pissed off about this if she found out.
A lot of women get the hump if their partners go to strip clubs, but there are some double standards here. Sure – weekly trips alone with private dances are a problem, but if a group of mates take you along for a laugh, it’s just a bit of harmless fun. Imagine the other way round; would you get jealous of a chippendale flexing his pecs in front of your girlfriend? We should hope not!
Meeting escorts is a tricky business; unless you have the most liberal and understanding partner in the world, she’s not going to approve of you spending time alone with a sexy escort girl. However, some women do invite London escorts to join them and their husbands at the same time… what lucky guys!
Meeting the ex is a tricky one. Even if you just want to be friends, it can be difficult for your new partner to understand this. There’s always the risk that you’ll slip back into old habits, or the lust that was once there will reignite. This is another case where it’s best to have everything out in the open – doing it behind your girlfriend’s back will only make you look guilty.